…And why I hate them – By Zee.
Another “event” is nearly upon us, we actually had a pretty fab Christmas and now have a yardstick by which to measure the success or otherwise of subsequent occasions. We loved staying at home and having people visit us for a change, it really has been pillar-to-post every other year we’ve been in the UK together. Now we have New Year to look forward to with the promise of another relaxed and enjoyable event in just a few days time.
This had led to the inevitable questions about NY Resolutions, and I have been forced to hit the soapbox once again.
I understand that for most people 1st Jan heralds a new calendar year, my “New” year personally comes a bit later in the year, but why do so many people feel the need to make pointless resolutions that they have little or no intention of sticking to and advertise the fact to their nearest and dearest?
If you want to make a change in your life, DO IT NOW! Don’t wait for some arbitrary date on the Gregorian calendar which was introduced by a Pope over 400 years ago!
Also, if you insist on making a resolution, make it something reasonably within your grasp and decide from the outset whether you are planning to actually work at it, or whether it is one of those things you just hope will happen during the year and require no actual input from you. I’m talking to those of you who think good resolutions are: “I’m going to meet the man of my dreams” or “I’m going to go to the gym every day of the year and lose half my body weight” Those are neither realistic, nor necessarily attainable and if, for whatever reason, you don’t achieve your unrealistic goals you will just be ending your year on a bigger downer than the one before.
I have a medically-imposed weight-loss program planned next year, it’s only waiting for then because I need to meet my new Daktari and figure out what sort of plan we’re looking at before I can actually decide anything, I know it’ll be realistic, I’ll have to work at it, I’ll probably hate it pretty much most of the time and I know I’ll need support, I’m not fooling myself, let alone anyone else, but it must be done and so it will be. It’s not a NY Resolution, it’s just a lifestyle change that needs to be made now.
So, my standard New Years Resolution that I won’t make a New Years Resolution still stands, I can’t stand the thought that people everywhere are going to hold themselves up to some ideal of their life and find themselves lacking. One of my friends has spent the entire Christmas period trying to cope with his daughter and his loneliness while his wife has been in hospital, another has been coping with a massive change to her life upon discovering that her husband and the father of her two sons has been having an affair which has broken up their family.
I see so many people around me who are just trying to get through the holidays and out the other side without losing themselves to their circumstances, the idea that these people might also be fighting to change something trivial in their lives because they feel they aren’t good enough as they are is heart-breaking.
If you must make a resolution, plan to be happier, more fullfilled than last year; hope to spend more time on the people who matter than you did last year, but more than that, resolve to survive 2012 being the same wonderful person that you have always been, live your life and find something new to smile about.